compassion

Getting Lost in the Past

Getting Lost in the Past

We like to fantasize that life with a significant other will be like a rom-com. We get a taste of it early in the relationship — what we call the honeymoon phase, the “New Relationship Energy” — and it's incredibly addictive.

But when the downside comes, and we first experience some kind of pain, we get stuck because we haven’t yet developed the skills to bloom the relationship back open into something greater. It seems gravity will always pull us back down.

Who’s Got Your Back?

Who’s Got Your Back?

There’s a pervasive problem we’re facing in the world right now.

As men, we often feel like we have to do it all ourselves, and alone. The whole world sits on our shoulders.

We think we need to push through life with egoic determination, gritting our teeth and pushing through all the obstacles and challenges that arise.

In doing this we are creating more tension and pain in our bodies. We often bear the resulting physical and emotional scars with pride, as a sign of masculine accomplishment.

Unfortunately, this way of approaching matters is unsustainable. You might be able to maverick through when you’re a bit younger and in peak condition, but eventually, it’s no longer possible and it all comes crashing down.